Friday, June 24, 2016

Down Below | Jonah Part 4

The Prophet Jonah Before the Walls of Nineveh
by Rembrandt Harmenszoon van Rijn

In my last post, I gave a little bit more information about Jonah “before he got on the boat”. We also looked at a few examples of what running might look like in our own lives. Then I noticed something else in verse 5.

But Jonah had gone below deck, where he lay down and fell into a deep sleep.”

In other words, he withdrew.

Sometimes when you feel a storm be it a mood or an actual change. Don’t you have the tendency to withdraw? Some go to the bar. Some, like Jonah, return to their bed and try to sleep through it and some lose themselves in the tasks that we described in the last post.

Sometimes when you’re going through something, don’t you just want to get to the bottom of it? You withdraw from all other activities to analyze ‘this thing’. You're on a mission. You’re not trying to withdraw; you’re actually trying really hard to be present. –The purest and present self that you can be. “You just gotta get this thing worked out first…”

Let me quickly add that I don’t think all withdrawing is bad. Jesus went away on a mountain. A caterpillar goes away to transform into a butterfly. Good things come out of retreating.

But you need to be careful here because 1 Peter 5:8 also says “Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” I do believe that you are more susceptible to spiritual attack when you remain isolated or withdrawn because;

When you’re alone, your story becomes the only one that you hear. -And let’s be honest, sometimes the story inside our head is a little out of focus. So, our responses to the situation get a little skewed as well. We need some interaction to help keep us from slipping too deeply into "our version".

But also, in that place of being withdrawn, you’re usually worn out. Whether or not you’re asleep or simply want to be. The first half of the verse in Peter says “Be alert and sober-minded.” When you’re weary, you’re not “alert”. You can even experience a little drunkenness from a lack of sleep. Then there’s sobriety from any “helpers” we might consider to “take the edge off.” When you’re not fully rested and “sober”, you’re exacerbating that “thought problem” and your emotional responses to it.

We see examples of Jonah's heightened emotions and exhaustion between these pages. It is assumed by other commentators that Jonah might have feared the Assyrians rising back up to overtake Israel. We know that in Chapter 4 he displays anger at the Lord for showing mercy to them. This is most likely because he had "stewed" in his frustration and fear of them for so long. Any of us can admit that happens more when we're alone. Whether or not he had wanted to die when decided to go overboard, he had convinced himself that suicide might be "the only way out" of his misery because running and isolation didn't work!


Whether or not you think that's true, it is what happens next.


"Jonah and the Whale Bible Story" by Dennis McGeary

So I ask you to consider, if you feel the need to withdraw for any reason but particularly during a storm, could you be running from something as well? If so, try to identify any fear(s), especially if you can’t stop what you're doing, and then ask yourself why that might be important. Jot it down.

This is kind of a sidebar but it's an important one. Sometimes this thought process can become an obsession or an addiction. You might not know how you get there. You might not see any way out. You might choose to steep yourselves in scriptures trying to combat it. While that must be better- is it really? 

I am not saying that scripture doesn't have power. The Bible plainly tells us to meditate on His Word and that scripture IS our greatest weapon of defense. I learned what I am getting ready to tell you by being in this place and meditating on scripture. So YES, there is power in it but also hear this with your heart-

If you're allowing a thing to isolate you or to control your moods and thoughts; and if even the scriptures that you meditate on have to be about your problem, you're getting sideswiped by something else and it is called worry.

When you give something else that much power over you, it can become an idol [limiting your view of God] and inadvertently, you can let it devour you. 

Pastor Fred Michaux of City Life church said: "You will never have dominion of any appetite of your body until you make fasting a regular part of your diet". If you've gone, like Jonah, down into the deepest part of your storm, I challenge you to fast from that place and come up for air and out into the light. Practice putting it down.

Aside from that, just because you’re running / withdrawing, doesn’t mean that it’s only affecting you. -No matter what you might tell yourself. Look around you and then back at Jonah. The men were throwing stuff off the boat while Jonah was asleep because his resistance turned pure chaos. Ahem, calamity. The point is, it's likely that everyone around you is affected by what you're going through, even if they’re not sure yet what it is or that you have something to do with it. 

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Storms don’t always look like the message in Jonah. Sometimes we’re homesick. Sometimes our parenting skills reveal to us that we don’t know all that we think that we do. Sometimes we need to have a conversation with our spouse or maybe there’s sickness, adultery or addiction. Storms come in a variety of ways but perhaps our responses are really kind of the same. Even when we try to justify that we’re not on a boat and haven’t fled the country.

The storm comes to reveal what we’re afraid of and sometimes it takes something that we hate to reveal it. But keep in mind that Jonah was challenged with delivering the truth. Is it also possible that some of your own “truths” need to be a little challenged here as well?  

Everyone in this picture; the Assyrians, the men in the boat and Jonah needed a different perspective about God. Could He really be -even bigger- than what our view and "allowances" make of him too? After all, isn't that why we sometimes think that we can take things into our own hands? -And don't storms often come and clear the air?


And yes, there's more.


[To be Continued]












Sunday, June 19, 2016

And So He Ran | Jonah Part 3

Photo courtesy of David Sharir
If you’ve heard about Jonah, one of the few details that you might remember about him was that the Lord told him to do something and he ran. I always thought that was a “coming to faith” thing like this task was the first big thing that God asked Jonah to do.

Ruins of Nineveh, from http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net/
What you might not know is that Jonah was actually a successful prophet and he was first seen in 2 Kings 14:23-25. His mention is short and I had to read several commentaries to get more information about what was happening around it. From what I can tell-

He worked under the hand of King Jeroboam II of Israel and he helped to build up their border and defense against Assyrians. Jonah prophesied that Israel would not be taken over and then later proved to be right. …From there, up spiked his popularity!

From http://goodshepherdacton.org/
He was from Gath-hepher, a little town in Galilee. When you and I catch up to him in the book of Jonah, he is going to Tarshish. However, he was called to go to Nineveh. The opposite direction.

My Bible says that Nineveh was the “rising world power” of Jonah’s day and it was the lead city in –of all places- Assyria; Israel’s biggest threat and the one place that Jonah has been working so hard to distance himself from. Even worse, this city reigned in sin.  If you’d like to dig a little deeper into this place, you can read about it in the book of Nahum

From: http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net/

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So, he appears to be pretty seasoned by this point. Why should he be scared?

Well, just put yourself in his shoes for a minute. Since he was successful in what he prophesied and also in his efforts to build up the border between the towns. He’s most likely had his ego stroked a lot by this point. Now he has to go IN to the very place that he didn’t even want to look at. Then he has to call people and address their sin; warning them to turn away and repent.

AND he gets to do it alone, at least from a human perspective. At least in Israel, there were others with him and doing the work.

Imagine going from “everyone calls on [likes] Jonah” to “everyone hates Jonah”. If we’re honest, that in itself is a hard pill to swallow. But again commentaries seem to indicate that his real issue was that he grew up fearing and hating them. 

He didn’t want the people of Nineveh to be saved. He actually preferred their vengeance. Steve Collins even indicates that Jonah might’ve been afraid that if God gave Assyrians mercy, they would later grow and overpower Israel in the future. Destroying everything that he’s helped to build up.

Thankfully, not all of the things the Lord will ask us to do will be as scary or as big as what was asked of Jonah. That doesn’t mean that what the Lord has asked of you, doesn’t terrify you any less, just because it’s smaller. Who’s to say that the Storm your facing has anything to do with being “asked to do something”. Jonah was also “afraid of the result”… Could your storm be more about some of your own fears simply be being brought into the light?

Either way, he ran.

What about you? Your storm might be here now. Are you running? If so, could that be part of the problem?

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In his book, Surprised by Grace, Pastor Tullian Tchividjian writes about Jonah and says that there are 2 ways of running.

The first is what we see in the Pagan Sailors. “They’re like the people Paul talks about in Romans 1. As those who live according to the world’s standards, usually without apology. They’re so disconnected from God’s ways that they live however they want. This is the condition of those outside the church who don’t know God.” 

They worshiped false gods. They were out doing their own thing, not even interested in…

The second way is what we see in Jonah himself. He is a believer. “He works in the church.”

From the same book, Tullian continues “But despite his pedigree and profile, Jonah’s still running from God. He’s no better off than the sailors. His morality and correct religion have brought him no closer to God than the sailors’ worldliness and false religion.” In other words, he has been given instructions by God and yet he doesn’t even trust him enough to obey.

Sometimes you and I are so black and white that if we don’t match the image that comes to mind, we dismiss the concept. So if you’re still picturing running as only being on 2 feet and going somewhere, may I suggesting that some of us just run “on high”.

It’s a position buried anywhere between the two I’ve just described. You might feel as though you’re not in either example. Maybe you go to church, maybe you don’t. You mostly just try to be a good person and get the job(s) done. You help others. You take care of your stuff. You mind your own business. –But your to-do list might as well be 6 days long because you never stop. YOU are the God in your country as you handle everything. You start in the morning and don’t stop until you pass out. “You’ll rest when you retire or when you’re dead”. -And I know…. If you don’t do the things on your list, often no one else will step in to do them either. ...or maybe not the way that you would've done it.

Sound familiar? I mean Jonah could have even felt a like this on some level. After all, he built a successful wall. He managed an army of men. He counseled others... He might have thought that he had it all figured out.

Whether or not you hear the Lord telling you to go do something- and whether or not you would or wouldn’t do it if you heard it. Plain and simple -not stopping- is a form of running. Even if there isn’t a visible to or fro’…

And wait- There is still one more thing I see in verse 5.   


[To be Continued]








Sunday, June 12, 2016

It's Okay To Ask For Thirst

It's okay to ask for thirst…
When the Samaritan woman came out to the well Jesus told her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” (John 4:10)

If you don’t yet know God that passage might not make sense to you. Sometimes it just doesn’t occur to us to ask for basic things… Maybe you don’t like to read your Bible. –You don’t get it. How is it relevant? Reading it is like torture. You don’t like to pray. –Why ask for something he should already know? You don’t even know who you’re talking to so what exactly are you supposed to say? You don’t like to go to church. You hate to sing. You’re not even sure you want to be bothered with a God or the people that surround him.

But IF YOU KNEW the gift of God, YOU WOULD ASK him and HE WOULD GIVE it to you. So maybe today start smaller. Ask him to simply make you thirsty. Go ahead and try praying today; but this time instead of making it sound like a prayer, just tell him the truth about how you feel about all of the things pertaining to him. (He knows it anyway. So, go ahead and admit it to yourself and be honest.) Then ask him to not only make you thirsty but to help you love it. Ask him to give you an appetite for more of him in the place you need it now.

Then take a drink anyway.

Then come back and do it again.

Because “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever! Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21)


I know because I've been there.






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Saturday, June 11, 2016

The Part To Remember During A Storm | Jonah Part 2



We are members of BridgePoint and this past week our Pastor gave a sermon on Psalm 42. This Psalm isn't about Jonah but part of it sounds like what Jonah described in Jonah Chapter 2. Infact Psalm 42:7 and Jonah 2:3 are almost identical.

"-Panting, thirsting, eating tears... and people saying where is your God?" 

It goes on...

"Deep calls to the deep, your breakers and waves have swept over me..." “Why so downcast Oh my soul?!"

It was a beautiful message and chapter. It seemed like a perfect note to tape down in my Jonah collection. Here's a link to the series on Chains. To hear this message, click on the sermon for week 3. It's about worry and depression.

I don't want to give the entire message away but Eric (the Pastor) points out 3 things that you can do in your storm. Having gotten to the other side of this thing, I can agree. These 3 things were eye opening to me as well and got me through my storm.

The first was to Remember - Make it a point to remember good times with the Lord. -When you knew he was present, when you knew he spoke to you, when you knew something happened and somehow it just had to be Him! Remembering might not sound like a big deal but you and I can barely remember what we had for breakfast or what happened yesterday. How much harder is it to remember a still small voice?

So when I told you in my last post to journal, I meant it.  There have been times, even since I began journaling myself, that I forget or I begin to doubt again. -Then I look back at the blog and I'm like.... hmmmI can't doubt that. He was there every step of the way.  

If this activity makes you uncomfortable, check out some of my notes about journaling. Also, the Bible clearly shows examples of making it a point to remember. When we do communion, "it is in remembrance of me". We see it in feasts like one in the book of Esther; it was to remind the Jews about their deliverance. When people or towns were renamed after certain milestones, or when His people set up alters and stones- All of it, is so that they remember and so that others learn and know.

Whatever method of remembrance works for you, please begin it. You might not feel like you have anything to remember yet, but start looking. You will get something. Even as this Psalmist states in Psalm 42 "these things I remember as I pour out my soul..."  It sounds so much like that song "Because He lives, I can face tomorrow..."

Nothing else will encourage you in a stormy season, like knowing that God was with YOU- has been and is still with you. You will need that reminder in a season whether it's now or later. Don't go any further without it.

Eric goes on to point out two more key things from this passage that will help you in a storm. I won't share them here because you might just need to hear it for yourself. Yet I can say that he is right. Those two things pointed out first in the scripture, also helped me in my season.

But you know I remember when I didn't have faith. I remember when I thought to myself "how on earth is a God that I don't even see or hear, supposed to be personal".

But I sat in that pew on Sunday and this passage, felt like it looked back at a Jonah season and blew a kiss to so many things that I learned; and am still learning. There was even a song that is played at the end, "Satisfied In You (Psalm 42) by The Sing Team" and I have been craving singing scripture and that dern guitar in my closet still calls my name, this song was another kiss, at me.

Then at the end there was a testimony from my Pastor's wife (which won't be included in the sermon) but it was so tender and beautiful and real. And it kissed the storms that we have in marriage and this "Power of a Praying Wife" study that we're doing on the side. Their testimony also reminded me that our "busyness" and our "insecurities" are sometimes blinding to the ways that we can reach out to our neighbors. Our head tells us one scenario, meanwhile another one is taking place that you can be a part of.  And another kiss was blown…

I know that part might not make sense to you. There were so many things that just seemed to marry together in a moment. True yes, they seem all about me and a place that I was in with the Lord. -But the Lord is also all about you and he will use everything in your life that you're willing to give him and then he will touch you in it. -Be it the storm or the kiss, if you let him. He is there. Every.single.time.

On Sunday, I was in the presence of it again. -Something real. People that were real, not perfect. Not glorifying storms but instead the great big God- that walks out on to the water and calls into our deep. In moments of brokenness, he comes down to sinners like us and loves us anyway…

If you’re in that storm. Come out to meet him in it [sermon and chapter] and be ready to take notes. Replace what you remember.

I pray that it whets your appetite for something more than tears and that tomorrow, you come back for a little more.

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Friday, June 10, 2016

What Kind Of Storm Is This? | Jonah Part 1



Storms come into each of our lives in a variety of ways and in many different seasons.  If you’re in one now, my heart aches for you. I know what it’s like to feel like you’re falling apart. Like, even your best efforts are failing you. You’re overwhelmed with emotions and life circumstances be it; sickness, job change, status change or a simple cross road or even worse, a mixture of all of it. After all, sometimes when it rains, it pours.

Like the chicken or the egg, it can be really hard to tell if the storm has come because of your actions, feelings and thoughts or if each of those things are a result of the storm that came to you first.  No one wants to be “Debbie Downer” or to be perceived as whining about their problem(s). You don’t want to make anyone sad by even admitting that you’re struggling. –And truthfully, sometimes you and I don’t know the words to describe it anyway. It’s just too overwhelming or surreal. So why bother.

If you’re in this place right now. I get it.

I’d like to tell you some things that I learned through my own recent storm and how my faith and the words of Jonah helped me get through it. My hope, is that it will relieve some of the pressure on you. Maybe even redirect you and help you get through your own season. It’s going to take me a few posts to work it out though. It won’t be all at once.

I recently shared a testimony about a big job change that happened for me in January. Before that, I worked 14 years at the same organization but in the I.T. department. When I started I.T. there was only one employee in that department and I joined her. I got the pleasure of watching that department morph into a 10-person team! While there were several opportunities for me to become Supervisor. I always resisted.

Until I stopped resisting.

3 years ago, it became obvious that our team was large enough and needed another Manager. It made sense that I should take it. It finally felt right. I was all fired up about it. Oddly enough, I remember telling a friend that while I knew it was time, I also felt like it was the end of me at the bank or the end of myself as I knew it. …and that was an eerie feeling.

There was no turning back and I didn’t want to.

Quickly the position didn’t seem to fit right. I struggled with it; maybe because I didn’t know how to “cut the path”. An example given by my Supervisor at the time as he helped me navigate my course. Being a visual learner, it was a timely and useful picture for the season. [If you were plowing a field of corn and were to try and cut a path when all of it is at eye level; it might be hard to see where or how you go in and accurately get to the other side or make the first pass. But once it's started, the remaining passes are clearer.] 

I asked myself if it was simply fear, intimidation or uncertainty? I also kept going while I considered my answers. I accepted every challenge that came my way professionally and personally. I even made a few extras. I learned a lot about myself in that time. Some good. Some not so much. I gained a whole new respect for Managers. Thankfully, I grew.

But meanwhile, it felt like I was losing the ability to control myself. The harder I tried, the more stressed out I was or the more errors that I made. Then to top it off, I started losing my ability to remember anything, or control my emotions. I cried during everything. I am not joking. I once sat in an 8-hour class with department heads and speakers with tears streaming down my face during 4 hours of the presentations. And don’t get me wrong. I love to be moved and inspired but this wasn’t a motivational talk. We were role playing, all sitting at the same table. A sweet co-worker gestured across the table that I had tissue stuck to my face…. Um yeah- It was like that. Haha

Yet, no one was more baffled than me.

Then it happened again in while learning about invoices. And again, while talking about goals and vision(s) for the team. And again, while reviewing contracts. Then it got to a point that I could not say the word ‘job’ without tearing up. I was certain that I was slipping off of my rocker.

Before I go deeper, I want to tell you that what I share here is not a reflection of my organization. It’s about what was happening inside of me. The company that I work for is a tremendous organization. It is a great place to work and I had the strongest Supervisors and Supporters through all of this! The internal storm is about a very spiritual aspect of this thing we call life and how the Lord sometimes moves within us. –Even though all of the outside conditions might indicate anything but stormy.

Underneath all of the successes that I was experiencing and “growing” that I was doing. I continued to struggle. I mentioned that I had gotten restless in I.T. a little while before I became a Manager. Somehow moving up the ladder, while it felt right and like it was the right time for me; I also felt like I was being pulled away from it. I would come home from work completely fried. –And I remember having conversations with my family where they were trying to talk to me and their words were bouncing off… I could see their mouths moving. I could hear them talking but I could not compute what was being said. I’d wake up in the middle of the night, so wired, I’d have to run and I was not a runner at the time. Or I had hives covering my calves. Even some of my own words seem streaked with things unusual to me. Now they are so easily recognizable as an SOS, for example: 
I wrote to my preacher and told him that I felt like “I had turned Jekyll/Hyde. I didn’t even recognize who I was anymore.” (RED FLAG)

In a journal to myself, I wrote: “If I could have unzipped my skin and ran fleeing from myself, I would have.”  –That’s a really crazy feeling by the way.

Even the words that I used to describe myself or certain events didn’t line up with what I felt or believed but they would come out so weird.

The lions of insecurity and awkwardness were growing larger and prowling all around.

To further compound it, I’m supposed to be a Christian; full of light and peace and joy…. I was in my Bible every day, praying like each breath was my last. Why didn’t I have it together? Isn’t my God bigger? Shouldn’t I be giving it to him? Am I not giving it to him? If not, how the heck do I let this thing go?

The breaking point for me was last summer during Helping Hands Camp Youth Camp. I was one of the Site Assistants for a couple of days on 2 different jobs. I don’t know if it was working outside all day, helping others on a deeper level, or doing something completely different than what I usually do. –But we painted sheds and porch rails, we hung trailer skirting and cleaned yards and at the end of each day, I couldn’t help but notice the peace that accompanied me home.

I couldn’t work every day of the camp but a friend took my kids for the remainder of the week. One morning before work, I asked her to pray. She and I had talked a lot about my job over the years and we did so again for a few minutes. Then she grabbed me by my shoulders, looked me in the eye and simply said “Reggie, I don’t think you’re supposed to do that anymore.”

Generally, I don’t let other people’s comments make such radical decisions in my life, but the words were alive and pierced my soul.

I drove to work and put in a Bible CD and began to pray. –But then the words of Ecclesiastes began to sound. Not having heard them before, I sat mystified.

“Meaningless! Meaningless!”
says the Teacher.
“Utterly meaningless!
Everything is meaningless.”
What do people gain from all their labors?
at which they toil under the sun?  [Read More]

I listened to several chapters, some on repeat but everything that came out seemed to further drive home the words of my friend. I had an hour commute but by the time I got to work, I simply felt in my spirit that it was time to turn in my notice. I nervously called Colin from the parking lot. “Honey, what would you say if I gave a 6-month notice today? I feel like it’s what I need to do.”

While he has always been supportive of me and anything that I wanted to do, I had never talked about quitting. So he always encouraged me on. This time was no different. He simply said, “I don’t think you should but do what you gotta do and I support you.”

So, I began the conversations… First with my Supervisors, and then with HR and I even went to A Christian Counselor for a few weeks to make sure I wasn’t having a mid-life crisis. I even had some physicals to make sure this crying stuff wasn’t hormonal. Good grief was it menopause? 

I don’t know where 6 months came from… but I didn’t want to leave too quickly an organization that had been really good to me. They would have to hire and train… And I had spent so much time telling myself to do the job that it was suddenly really hard to see myself completely different. I was going to need some time to unravel this… And if I was changing something, I wanted to dream a little and pray a lot.

Oddly enough I gave my notice in July and a marketing job came open in December. I was offered the job in January… 6 months later… And there have been a lot of blessings on this side of that decision that I will also try to write about soon.

But I told you that I’d share with you some things that I gleaned from Jonah. So grab your Bible if you don’t already have it and flip to chapter 1. –Go ahead and read it first if you like because I won’t go line through line through it here. My references to his story will be spread out between these posts.

Jonah is known for running so far from God that the Lord had to send a storm and a whale after him to bring him back to the His plans.

If you’re in one of those really stressful seasons or feel like you’re falling apart. Your storm could be because of consequences if you’re running from something. But what happens when you’re not. You’re just minding your own business and poof, here’s your storm. Now you’re just trying to hold on!

The Lord used that job in SO MANY ways to grow me and shape me. Also, during that time, I had all 3 of my children. I met my Best Friend. Several of us started going to Bible Study together, then church. And eventually, about 4-5 years ago I got serious about having a relationship with God.

...and then the Earth started moving! Let’s just say that my boat set out to sea here.

I began growing restless in my work and in some other areas. (Was it coincidence that the more serious that I got about Him, the more other things started rattling around?) I started clinging tighter to those things and not necessarily because that’s what I wanted to do; but in being an emotional person, I didn't want to follow feelings. I get them wrong A LOT. After all, the Bible never tells us that our life will be dreamy 24/7. And from "the view of the boat" there was nothing else in the sea that looked like a direction or a sign for me.

So, I prayed harder and held tighter. When I accepted the promotion, which I still believe I was supposed to do, things really started going south in me.  My work, my team, all of the things at my job were still wonderful. I was a complete mess. I believe verse 7 describes it as "calamity" and v11 says the sea was rougher and rougher. So rough, I was ready to jump ship.

But I held on even tighter.

The Lord led me to that job. I didn’t want to leave it a moment too soon. And so I tried to be my best cheerleader, telling myself that I can do hard things and to not to give up before victory and to choose my attitude....

I think you get the idea here but close your eyes and imagine for a minute, me on my knees on the deck of a boat, holding on to bolts or the mast or whatever is available on deck. Tired, drenched, tossed around… and hanging on.

Please hear my heart when I tell you this.

This chapter might tell you that God sent a storm after a man that was running.  But God also sends storms after those who are simply lost at sea. And after those who are crazy obedient and after those who are exactly where they were supposed to be.

Sometimes, he sends a storm after YOU.  Could this be your storm?

I hope you can hang in there as we work out these posts.

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While you wait, start journaling now about your storm and highlight or mark things that just stand out. –Even if they don’t add up yet. Start reading your Bible, even if you’re not really into it. If you find any scriptures or characters that might touch you, go ahead and include that with your notes. Then pray and meditate on those things.



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